Hello I’m Ruthy and I’m a magazine addict. Commuting by train every weekday means that I frequently pop into to WHSmiths to purchase yet another monthly mag. But as of today I am calling a halt to this habit for the following reasons:
- glossy magazines make me feel vaguely dissatisfied with my life
- there is too much temptation to buy things featured in the magazines, whether it is a new handbag or a recipe book
- the content is actually pretty repetitive and predictable, so now we are in October it is all about how to have the perfect Christmas and in January there will be diets aplenty…
- there is lots of interesting stuff to read online these days, including some fantastic blogs
- magazine issues pile up around the house and make the place look untidy
- they may only cost a few quid each, but I dread to think how much I have spent in total over the years…
I’ve made previous attempts to quit this habit but I am really determined to stop now. By saying this publicly here I hope that my willpower will be strengthened.
This also links in with my intention to collect moments not things. I’m going to keep track of the money saved by not buying magazines and put it towards a trip to Paris with two of my sisters in the spring. More news about that soon!
Every evening, I try to write 3 good things that happened that day in my notebook before I go to sleep for the night. That way I fall asleep with some happy thoughts fresh in my mind, even if I have had some challenging things to deal with that day.
I started a fresh notebook for September. It was a TK Maxx bargain, but the paper is lovely to write on.
This idea was inspired by Karin and her Embrace Happy facebook community. Lots of people share their 3 good things online, but I prefer to use a notebook for the following reasons:
- I like to keep my good things a bit more private, rather than being concerned about what might seem impressive on facebook
- using a notebook as it means that I am not looking at a screen before I go to bed,
- and it is easy to look back through what I have written on previous days.
Mostly, my 3 good things are small pleasures, a nice meal, a walk, a book, time spent with my husband and son. All in all this is a really great way for me to collect moments, not things.
I was on Sunday Breakfast on BBC Radio 5 Live last weekend, helping presenter Sam Walker to declutter her wardrobe. The photo above shows me, my son and Sam standing next to Sam’s wardrobe just after we had finished recording.
The whole experience was great fun. Sam was every bit as lovely as she sounds on the radio! I really enjoyed showing her how to use the Konmari method of decluttering, as described in The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying’ by Marie Kondo.
We went through the following steps:
- First we pulled Sam’s clothes out of the wardrobe and laid them on her bed.
- Then Sam picked up each item one at a time and decided whether that dress, top or skirt sparked joy.
- It was obvious which items of clothing brought Sam joy, because they made her smile – these clothes could be kept.
- If an item of clothing made Sam frown and pause then it was good indication that it was no longer bringing her joy, and that this item should go.
Sam got the hang of this really quickly, and soon there was a big pile of clothes to take to the charity shop. Some of the clothes in this pile still had tags on, but Sam admitted that she wasn’t likely to wear them. We put the clothes that brought joy back in her wardrobe.
There was also a very small pile of clothes where the decision was less clear-cut. I suggested that Sam should put these clothes to one side and revisit them in a few months.
Later that day, Sam told me that her husband also had the bug and had done even better than she did.
It just goes to show that the Konmari approach is very simple to use. One of the reasons it works is that it gives you permission to keep the items that bring you joy and to get rid of the items that do not.
It also gives you confidence to know more about what suits you, and helps you to make better decisions about what to buy in future. This should lead to fewer items hanging in your wardrobe unworn with the tags still on!
If you want to listen, I have saved the 5 minute clip from ‘Sunday Breakfast’ 06/09/2015 on my audioboom account. Please note, this works best on a desktop or laptop computer and may not work on mobile phones or tablets.
I was a terrible spendthrift until I turned 40. Now I aim to ‘collect moments not things’ and I’m much happier for it.
The photo above shows my husband and son paddling in the sea. I remember this as being a really lovely moment, worth more to me than any swanky handbag or fancy gadget.
As I grew up I was told that spending money on experiences, such as going to the cinema or eating out, was a waste of money because I ‘would have nothing to show for it’. But I have learned that buying things just for the sake of it does not bring happiness, it just means your house gets full of stuff you don’t really want or need.
For some time now, I have been buying less stuff and decluttering the stuff we already have. Items that we are not using could be used and enjoyed by other people. I’m never going to manage to be a proper minimalist, but I have already made progress on creating more space and reducing the amount of stuff in our home. This is especially important because our current house is smaller than our old house, and has much less storage space.
I’m a big fan of ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying: A Simple, Effective Way To Banish Clutter Forever’ by Marie Kondo. It has really helped me to get rid of items that do not bring me joy, and to make better use of my favourite things.
With limited money available, I would rather spend money on experiences than things. In particular, I don’t want to waste money on things that do not bring me joy!
I’ve worked to get my credit card bill under control by having a wishlist, instead of buying things as soon as I see them, and using cash wherever possible. We are aiming to to be mortgage free by 2020, by making regular over-payments to shorten the mortgage term.
This is also about trying to be a good role model for my son. I have talked to him about why I think having fun together is more important than having things, and why having less stuff means that there is more space to play. We still buy toys, particularly Lego, but we are more selective.
When it comes to expensive toys, like games consoles, I have explained that I think it is more fun to spend the same amount of money on a seaside holiday. This seems to have worked (so far!), because my son loves the seaside as much as I do.
So if you carry on reading this blog, you can expect to see more about moments and less about things.
Vegan food can be absolutely delicious if you do it right. So I’m really looking forward to getting lots of inspiration at VegfestUK London at London Olympia on 10th and 11th of October.
VegfestUK is described as being ‘a top day out stuffed with sumptuous cuisines’. For a limited period, tickets for VegfestUK London are available on a ‘buy one get one free’ basis, so you can #BringAFriendToVegfest.
I’ll be bringing my sister Soph who is vegan and has been to VegfestUK a couple of times before. She says it’s really good.
With 200 stalls and 14 caterers, I’m planning on trying out lots of vegan foods. Normally when I go to events I have to choose carefully in order to carefully avoid foods containing meat, which I haven’t eaten since I was a teenager, and I also try to avoid cow’s milk because it gives me stomach ache and digestive problems.
If you want to go to VegfestUK, leave a comment below telling me your all time favourite vegan food in order to be entered into a draw for a pair of free tickets.
Updated 28th August 2015: This draw is now closed.
The winner of the draw for two weekend tickets to VegfestUK London is Steph, who will need to supply a UK postal address in order to have the tickets posted to her by VegfestUK.
I will receive a pair of tickets to VegfestUK.
After six weeks of being (mostly) sugar-free, here are the results:
- my energy levels are more stable, and I no longer get that terrible late-afternoon tiredness
- my teeth feel lovely and clean
- I have lost 5lb in weight
- my waist measurement has decreased by 5cm (2″), which means it is now less than half my height
- my clothes fit me better and feel more comfortable
After the first couple of weeks it actually became much easier to resist sugary food and drink, because I craved it less. Lots of things I used to like taste horribly sweet if I try them now.
So it’s all good, and I’m going to stay off the sugar from now on, apart from a couple of portions of fruit a day, some good quality dark chocolate and the occasional piece of birthday cake.
With thanks to Sandy Calico who took this photo of me at BlogOnMOSI on 2nd May.
A week ago, I decided to go sugar-free. I had put weight on over the last few months and was feeling tired and hungry all the time, and I suspected this may have been caused by eating too much sugar (e.g. doughnuts in the office, biscuits at meetings, ‘healthy’ cereal bars, etc.).
I have read lots of books and articles* which convinced me that fructose (which is in most forms of sugar) has been making me fat for two reasons:
- it is converted by my liver into fat
- it means I never feel completely full so I eat too much food in general.
I now suspect that the reason I lost weight on WeightWatchers was that I reduced my sugar intake. This is because sugary foods are high in ProPoints, so given the choice between a chocolate bar and a sandwich I usually chose to eat a sandwich.
Some people can moderate their sugar intake, but I find this very hard to do. Eating sugary foods just makes me want more. So I decided to cut sugary foods out as much as possible.
The main exception to this is that I am still eating a couple of portions of fruit per day. Fruit contains fibre which slows down the speed at which the sugar is absorbed, and fibre also makes you feel fuller which makes you less likely to consume large quantities of fruit in one go.
I am not having any artificial sweeteners because I prefer to eat real food, and because I want to kick the habit of eating sweet things and re-train my ‘sweet tooth’.
Unsweetened dairy products are ok because they don’t contain fructose. I have goat’s milk with my porridge in the morning because cow’s milk doesn’t agree with me and soya milk is sweetened with apple juice or other sweeteners.
I am still having savoury treats, including the Marmite cashews shown in the photo above. My favourite lunch is smoked salmon and avocado on toast, which seems very luxurious! I think it’s important that I continue to enjoy my food!
Fortunately, my husband is giving me lots of support with this. He has been keeping sugary stuff away from me, and making sure that there are lots of savoury treats around, including nuts and nice cheeses. But I am actually snacking less because I feel less hungry.
After a week of low sugar food I’m already feeling less tired, and I no longer count down the minutes until my next sugary snack. I’ve also lost a bit of weight, and my waist is a bit slimmer too. So my trousers feel comfortable for the first time in ages, which is good.
Tomorrow will be the real test because I’m going back to work. But I don’t want to undo my efforts so far, especially after making this blog post public, so hopefully it will be ok. Watch this space!
See also – Sugar-free me – the results!
*Some people have asked me for more details about the books and articles I read, so I will write a separate blog post about this soon.